Dating safety tips for women and all you need to know about online dating safety covered in this content. Most time, online dating can be exciting and fun and at other times it also has its shortcomings. Although it has proven to be an avenue for ladies from all sphere to have a fascinating experience online, we cannot also dispute the fact that there are others who have had a sour experience through the online dating. This is because we cannot vouch that everyone online looking for online dating has good intentions or notion about it.
According to a study in the journal Psychological Science in the Public Interest, “Online dating has become so popular that nearly 25 million people searched for love in just one month of 2011”. Relationships in general make people a bit nervous. It’s about trust. Do I trust you enough to go there? By Neil LaBute.
This article on online dating safety will help you understand why online dating rules and safety is important in other no to lose sense of your judgement and get carried away. Enjoy these 15 tips and stay safe while you enjoy your online dating thanks.
1. Be honest:
Being honest is the first step to achieving a great result with online dating. In searching for a date, you have to be honest about yourself especially to the person you are hooking up with or chatting with. This is saying that you should start and build the relationship based on honesty because you can’t tell where this is leading to.
Does this mean that you are just to open yourself to a total stranger? Off course not, but ensure that whatever piece of information that you are able to divulge to your potential online date partner is authentic and not falsify.
To support my point, read the following statement by Dr. Deibler (a dating psychologist) “It is ill-advised to share photos or other information that is untruthful, as discovering such misrepresentation can lead to angry feelings and perhaps aggressive behaviour”. So honesty is one of the ways of dating safety.
2. Know what you’re looking for, and narrow your search accordingly:
From the moment that you made up your mind to go online dating, you have to decide as well on what you are looking for. Having a vivid picture of what your desire and the kind of man you wish to meet will help you narrow down your search and avoid unnecessary wandering on the internet and equally save you a lot of time, money and energy. So ensure that you have a clear picture of what you want before proceeding to ensure dating safety.
3. Pick the right dating site/app for you:
Like I said in the introduction, most people have negative intentions when it comes to online dating, this also include some fake site which supports online dating. In other to stay safe, ensure you do a thorough research about the dating apps/site and eliminate the bad ones from the good ones.
So haven’t ensured you are honest enough to give out the right info about yourself, the next step to ensure dating safely, is to look for a reliable dating site/ app depending on the type of date you are up for, to ease your journey.
Online dating sites such as Match.com, eHarmony.com and Zoosk.com take the traditional matchmaking process online and allow people to meet one another and do take their client’s safety very seriously. So go on, try them and stay safe while dating.
4. Make sure what you see is what you get:
Many a times, even when you have worked yourself on being honest with your potential mate, the same may not be told of your potential mate, so it’s logical to check and verify the information provided by your potential mate/online partner even before you guys meets especially in person.
You can upload a potential date’s photograph on TinEye or Google Goggles which will let you see where else on the Internet the photo has appeared. This is because many scammers steal photos from Facebook pages. What did you find? Does their profile photograph look as though it’s been professionally shot? These apps are helpful for finding out whether a picture is genuine.
5. Don’t rush into a meeting:
A quote by KELLY STARLING, (Ebony Magazine, on May 2000), “Everybody knows the pressure of a first date: Searching for that perfect outfit. Hunting for ways to be engaging. Dissecting each detail when it’s over to check for mistakes. Dating can make even the most confident person lose his cool”.
It is very important that you do not rush into a meeting with your found date mate. You should endeavour to first find out really if your online partner/mate is who he claims to be. No matter his appearance, smartness and his confession of love and affection to you, just take things easy before fixing time for the first date. It’s better done slowly and joyful at the end than hastily and end with regret.
6. Don’t accept a late-night date:
Hey, hold it there. Late night date should not be welcomed at first time even if he claimed and banks on tight job schedules especially for the first dates, don’t accept that no matter how deeply you thought you guys are connected within this few time.
Sometimes, this could be trap by your online partner/mate to you but I am not saying that there shouldn’t be night date on the long run. Please date and stay safe. I will close this point with the words of Joyce brothers, “No matter how love-sick a woman is, she shouldn’t take the first pill that comes along”.
7. Don’t post contact information:
This point is very essential especially at the beginning of your dating. It is always advisable not to divulge personal contact information to your potential or newly met dating mate because you do not know who is who, who is real and who is not.
Ensure that you empower yourself to control what you share online.” While engaging in multiple virtual platforms can make you feel like Master of the Internet, it can also leave you vulnerable
8. Watch for red flags:
You have to be smart and watch for the red flags. Imagine this scenario ‘Begin with the profile picture. Amazed by your virtual lover’s ideal teeth and sparkling eyes? Also, don’t kick us off on that swimsuit photograph. Hate to blast your air pocket, however he might be unrealistic. It’s not remarkable for people to grab photographs of models, superstars, or simply normal individuals and post them as their own.
In case you’re suspicious, attempt an opposite picture look by means of Google Images to check whether the photographs are posted somewhere else. Let me conclude this point with this quote by Garth Bruen (a security fellow of the Digital Citizens Alliance, a Washington, D.C.-based coalition that promotes Internet safety), “Even if they’re not trying to deceive and are maybe just trying to be funny, you got to think: For whatever reason, that person is not being honest about themselves,”.
9. Play detective and ask the right questions:
To authenticate the trustworthiness of your partner or newly found date mate, “make an inquiry, and afterward, make the same inquiry differently,” says Bruen, who proposes asking where the individual went to secondary school. Thus, be quick to stories that don’t exactly include on the off chance that he has one employment today and another occupation in seven days.
You’re searching for a “string of trustworthiness,” Kaiser says, which is less demanding to learn about when you’re sharing supper with individual as opposed to trading messages. Be ready to accept what you find out in the course of checking the mate, but that does not mean that you should have a false sense of security, especially when the background check on your dating mate is clean. You still require some level of caution here, so as to ensure dating safety.
10. Set your expectations:
It is always very important that you set your expectation from the beginning but be careful not to set a very high expectations for that potential date mate, so that you wouldn’t feel disappointed when such expectations are not met. You should always realise that the partner that you are meeting is also human with flaws.
According to Garry Shandling, “I’m optimist that two people can be together to work out their conflicts. And that commitment, I think, might be what love is, because they both grow from their relationship”. I believe in the above but that does not mean you should let your guard down this is about dating safety so you should be safe at all times, So date safely.
You should also know that the internet is filled with different kinds of people with different backgrounds and cultures, the good, the bad and ugly but this does not mean there is no millions of good guys out there, who are ready to meet a new soul mate. It’s just nothing happens overnight. Things take time.
11. Use Instinct and intuition will not protect you from a predator:
Instinct and intuition are two important thing everybody possess. Instinct and intuition are always there in our subconscious mind, popping up here and there, but it takes some level of attentiveness to capture and understand how it works. So if something doesn’t feel right, trust your instincts, end the date and walk way.
You’re not obliged to see the person again, and you don’t have to feel guilty for leaving early. Our instincts most of the times are always right, so trust your instinct, stay protected while you are on your dating safety cruise.
12. Meet up safely/in public:
Here we go, excited to meet your new date mate after several phone calls and text messages on chatroom? Be safe and act safely. Don’t be carried away by the excitement of meeting him and forget to do the most things needful especially, for the very first date.
Please, ensure that you first meeting is in public and open place for people to see and also when you meet, act cool and cheerful. According to a quote “To win the hearts of beautiful creatures, your stories must always be told with a joyful face, full of sweetness and love, seen at a distance with kindness.”
― Auliq Ice
13. Tell someone about your date/ arrange for call during the date:
Another important dating safety rule to help you stay safe. Despite the fact that you are on a date, do not forget to inform a reliable friend about this meeting especially, your first few meetings with your date mate. Give that friend the certain subtle elements you’ve gathered, for example, their telephone number), where you’re meeting, how to contact you and where you’ll be etc.
I will also suggest that you arrange a phone call with that friend during your date mating. The friend could call you at the middle of the date just to check on your safety. This is very important in other to stay safe.
14. Look after your drink or food:
This is very important most especially for the first date meeting. Do not feel so relax and leave your food or drink unattended to even for second. The fact that your first date meeting won’t tell much about your new found friend should make you understand the important of save guarding your food/drinks, so don’t leave your food or drink for rest room or popcorn.
Also consider Going Dutch that is when you initially meet an online companion IRL (in real life), both people should pay their own way for at least the first few dates. Its gives you some level of respect and high self-esteem especially, this will be noticed by your new date mate.
15. Transport yourself Home:
Here we go again. Meeting and departing the meeting venue should be your so responsibility. First date meeting, no room for lift, being drunk and being highly emotional. Ensure that you transport or drive yourself to the venue to and fro. Don’t create an avenue that will suggest you needing your date mate to take you home or see you off. Avoiding your date mate seeing you off especially on your first date meeting, it is a way of Keeping Things Private
So dating safety is all about being careful, meticulous and at the same time optimistic that you are going to meet the right date mate who will be able measure up to your expectation, while you also realised that he is human with flaws and also with the potential to improve. I will say that above all, Internet dating has helped people of all ages realize that there’s no need to settle for a mediocre relationship.”
The way to fruitful dating is … as opposed to concentrating exclusively on finding and winning over that unparalleled ideal individual, utilize this time in your life to find out about yourself and about connections and to improve as an accomplice. Being single can offer a special point of preference in the quest for good connections. You have the chance to venture back, take a stock, learn and develop, and be significantly more prepared for a solid relationship.
Rather than jumping headlong into the following sentiment, moderate down and make some individual disclosures that will expand your odds of having your future connections more fruitful. I will conclude with this quote by Jennifer Lopez, “If you kiss on the first date and it’s not right, then there will be no second date. Sometimes it’s better to hold out and not kiss for a long time. I am a strong believer in kissing being very intimate, and the minute you kiss, the floodgates open for everything else”.
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